The Eldest Daughter Effect shows how firstborn women and girls became the accomplished, dependable, wonderful rocks that we are.
Many of the world’s most successful women are firstborns. Taylor Swift, Arianna Huffington, Christine Lagarde, Gwyneth Paltrow, JK Rowling, Lady Gaga, Oprah Winfrey and Sheryl Sandberg to name just a few. Their success didn’t come overnight. It is the result of dedication and hard work, of a forward drive they share as they feel the responsibility to offer the world the best they’ve got.

Eldest daughters are expert organizers of people and events as we have learned from a young age to take the lead.
We feel responsible and we do what we commit to. With our overview of what’s needed, we’re likely to take matters in hand to the delight of others, who know that things will not only be done, but done well.
The non-stop sense of responsibility may also get in the way. Overcommitment can become a daily reality and others may rebel against the bossiness that we’re not always aware of. A deep dive into our default position brings greater freedom as we practice making informed choices – and saying ’no’.
Eldest daughters will gain greater self-awareness through this book that also helps parents and siblings understand the firstborn of the family better.
Lisette Schuitemaker and Wies Enthoven struck up a friendship long before they discovered they were both firstborns. Since they began to look at their similarities through the eldest daughter lens, the Dutch authors have become aware of deep underlying patterns that they share with millions of other firstborns – and who often find their best friends are eldest daughters, too!
“What a relief to recognise myself in so many others!” Participant of the 2023 Eldest Daughter Retreat
